Breathe

No strings attached

‘You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours.’ It’s a phrase you’ve probably heard plenty of times. Reciprocity, or the unspoken expectation of it, is ingrained in social interactions. Even just hearing a heartfelt ‘thank you’ or ‘I owe you one!’ can feel satisfying when you’ve done something nice for someone. And if you don’t receive …

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Now and then

There’s plenty of happiness to be found in the present moment, but sometimes life necessitates change, and changes take planning. Whether it’s a new job, moving house or starting your own business, planning the future can take you away from joy in the here and now. One of the problems is that when you start …

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Release the rescuer

Picture the scene: you’re halfway through the work day when a friend sends a long, gloomy text message about a recurring relationship problem. Heart pounding at the thought of their discomfort, you hurry out of the office to call them. You launch into a 20-minute advice session – something that’s become a regular occurrence over …

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Truly, madly, deeply

Language is a strange beast. It’s essential to articulate needs, facilitate transactions and transmit vital information. But humans also use it in another crucial way: to deepen personal connections. From social chitchat at work to a heart-to-heart with a friend, when you’re in a room with someone, it’s language that you turn to, intersected with …

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Displays of affection

How do you show appreciation and affection for someone you care about? Perhaps you’re a person who responds to physical touch and you love to greet friends with a warm hug or give colleagues a pat on the back. Or maybe you prefer to put a lot of thought into selecting the perfect birthday gifts …

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To hug or not to hug

To hug or not to hug?

Are you a hugger? For some people, hugging comes so naturally that they’re happy to throw their arms around complete strangers in a warm greeting or envelop their loved ones in a strong, lingering bear hug. Others might only feel comfortable hugging loved ones and dislike similar physical contact with colleagues or acquaintances. And there …

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Means of connection

The word ‘community’ conjures many images. Maybe it’s running the tombola at a bustling fair or sitting in a cosy living room, dissecting the latest novel at a book club. It could also be smaller, more everyday things – chatting to your neighbour as you take out the rubbish or smiling at the dog-walker you …

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The joy of anonymity

The joy of anonymity

A leisurely browse of the sunglasses, a spritz of Jo Malone’s latest scent, I even consider buying a giant Toblerone, just for the fun of it. Breezing around London Gatwick’s north terminal on a quiet Monday afternoon, I’m in my element. It’s the most relaxed I’ve been in months. Far from being bored or lonely, …

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To intervene or not to intervene

To intervene or not to intervene?

If you see a friend or loved one on the brink of a big life decision that you’re confident isn’t right for them, it’s hard to know what to do with your feelings. Whether it’s a relocation, new partner, career change, business venture, relationship break-up or something else, your knowledge of their preferences, values and …

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Get the balance right

Whether you’re married, cohabiting with a sibling, flatmate or romantic partner, or have a genuinely close friend, you might be dependent on someone else to a greater or lesser extent – and they might be dependent on you. Perhaps, day-to-day, you’re always available to them – and vice versa – in a way you’re not …

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